Outside perspective . . . . . . .?

The feeling that comes to my mind id, you cant change anyone else, you can only change yourself. You have been feeling bad about your brother for so long, and frustrated that he refuses to chang his ways. Sometimes we just have to accept that this is how its going to be and we have to deal with it in the best way we can. This will be different for everyone, you have support from your new family and, although it will be difficult, you need to turn a page, finish that chapter and start a brand new one. What happened to you ail always be part of your life and memories but you don't need to bring them to the fore all the time. Accept that this is a dark part of your life and try to concentrate on the future with your lovely fiance. I wish you all the best