How long did your "ex" stew over leaving him/her for someone else?

My ex has moved not one inch from 3 and a half years ago.I left for someone else after 22 years. So be it.50% of marriages end in divorce. She has dedicated her life to making mine as difficult as possible, lying in court, making false allegations of "harrment" ( I havent spoken directly to her in 3 years) and the like.. does this ever end????